Secure Marriage Podcast

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By: Paul & Shannon Elmore

Most couples have no idea why their marriage isn’t as easy as they thought it would be. In the Secure Marriage Podcast, Paul Elmore, a Licensed Professional Counselor, and his wife, Shannon, use Biblical truth, the latest relationship research, 16 years of professional counseling, and 25 years of personal marriage experience to show you exactly what you need to do to make your marriage work better. It doesn't matter if you're just starting your marriage, you want your good marriage to be better, or your marriage is melting down, when you use the Secure Marriage Framework you are guaranteed to fight le...

My Friend is Having An Affair? What Do I Do?
03/16/2024

Ever had to make a decision which is guaranteed to make at least one person angry, and there’s absolutely nothing you can do to get out of it?

On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll give you crystal clear instructions on what to do if your friend tells you they’re having an affair, but doesn’t want you to tell their spouse. Buckle up.


Did my Husband Sabotage My Birthday?
03/12/2024

What are you supposed to think (or do)when you’ve told your husband for years that you want to be celebrated on your birthday, and he still completely forgets or does lame last-minute things? That’s what we’re tackling on today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast.

P.S. We’re also taking a painful walk down memory lane and talking about some of the ways I hurt Shannon because of my deep lack of self-awareness.


How to Melt Your Wife’s Heart Through the Power of Empathy
03/08/2024

Do you know how to get emotionally reconnected after a fight? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll walk you through the secret recipe you need to know that will make your wife’s heart melt with love and affection.


Yelling at Your Wife and Kids is ALWAYS a Bad Idea
03/01/2024

We understand that you get frustrated with your wife and kids at times. But losing control and blowing up on your family does damage that can last for years.

In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll look at why losing your temper is actually causing more problems than it’s solving, and the two times it’s actually okay to express really strong emotions at your spouse or children.  


Don’t Let Shame Destroy Your Relationship
02/19/2024

If you spend a lot of time beating yourself up internally, chances are you’re pretty critical of everyone else around you, including your spouse. 

On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re exploring how shame becomes a toxic element in your relationship and why it’s important to become the healthiest version of yourself.


How to Completely Remove Anger From Your Marriage
01/19/2024

Remember the last time you or your spouse blew up in anger during a fight? Remember what they said and how they acted. Now imagine the same fight except without the blow up. How would things have gone differently? How would it have felt.

In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re introducing you to the little known technique that can remove almost all angry outbursts from your relationship.


Why Doing Planks Makes Your Marriage Stronger
01/15/2024

Shannon and I have committed to doing planks everyday of 2024. So far, we’ve kept our promise despite being sick for the first two weeks of the year. So what does this have to do with marriage? You’ll have to listen to today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast to find out.


Why I Woke Up SUPER Mad at my Husband
12/28/2023

Husbands… have you ever woken up and the first thing you realize is, your wife’s really mad at you? Welcome to my world today. 

In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re inviting you into our humor-filled morning of a wife who didn’t get enough sleep. Buckle up!


The RIGHT Way to Pick A Christmas Tree
12/26/2023

It’s Christmas Day on the podcast, and out of the goodness of our hearts, we’ll share with you the RIGHT way to pick a Christmas Tree… which obviously is Shannon’s way. 😁

Merry Christmas to everyone who so kindly listens and supports us here at Secure Marriage. Without you, we wouldn’t be able to do what we do.


Why Love Isn’t Enough For A Happy Marriage
12/21/2023

At some point in your marriage, you’ve probably said (either verbally or internally), “We’re sooooo in love!” And I have no doubt that this was (and maybe still is) true. But being in love will never be enough to have a healthy and secure Marriage.

“Why?”

I’m so glad you asked. That’s what we’re covering in today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast.

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